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Dear Christine,
The girl I’m seeing broke up with her fiancé a few months ago, before he was deployed out to sea. She stayed in the apartment to take care of his bills but was going to leave as soon as he came back.
Now he’s back, and he won’t let her go. He has abused her in the past. She knows he’s not good for her, but she’s afraid he might hurt her or even me. He also uses his naval status to threaten her. She thinks if she does anything to ruin his name or career (like a restraining order), he will try to harm her.
I am also afraid she might try to kill herself. What should I do? — MARTIN
Dear Martin,
Is this for real?
How well do you really know this woman? She could be making up this entire story so you don’t know she’s two-timing you. Or this could be her way of scaring you off. Or maybe she’s a drama queen, creating a story so you’ll come to her rescue. Think about it.
But for the sake of argument, let’s say this is the real deal. What should you do? There’s not much you can do. This is her problem—not yours.
I’m all for knights in shining armour, but the damsel in distress routine is outdated. She needs to deal with this. She needs to contact the authorities or do whatever it takes to assure her own safety.
You said you’re afraid she might try to kill herself. What makes you think that? Did she say so, or are you being over dramatic? If she’s really talking suicide, she doesn’t need a boyfriend. She needs a therapist. You can give her your opinion or my opinion. But that’s it.
Bottom line: This is a train wreck waiting to happen. Get off the crazy train at the next possible stop.
Dear Christine,
I’ve written to you before, and I just wanted to say thanks and let you know about the turn my life has taken.
A couple of years ago, when my relationship of nine years ended because my partner had found someone new, I was angry and distraught. Since then, I found my soulmate. Last April, I met a high school acquaintance, and we talked and laughed for hours, catching up on our high school days. She managed to find numerous excuses to see me. I confessed that I’d had a crush on her in high school, and she admitted the same.
It took 20 years to find her, and it was worth the wait. We are now living together and are so in love that I just had to tell you.
I’d like to tell your readers: Be patient. Love happens. — GORD – RODNEY, ONTARIO
Dear Gord,
Congratulations. It’s always great to hear about a happy ending.
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